How To Pick Up A Girl When She’s With Friends
I want to bring to your attention to an obstacle almost every guy slogging through the single scene trenches is forced to deal with – whether they’re aware of it or not.
It’s rare to see attractive girls at bars by themselves. Usually, they come with friends in tow.
Have you ever chatted up an attractive female and thought, “Smooth sailing from here on in,” but then her friends took her away from you? That’s because you didn’t know how to deal with them.
Here’s a kindergarten-simple way to infiltrate her social circle…
Ask her group of friends for their opinion on something.
If you do this correctly you will engage the whole group in conversation and become part of her social circle. Here is a simple example authored by Neil Strauss
Say to the group, “Guys… I want a quick opinion on something.” When you get their attention say, “Who do you think lies more – men or women?”
Every one will put their two cents in.
Then ask, “Do you think men or women are more likely to cheat on their partners?”
The guys in the group will say, “Women.” The women will argue, “Men.”
This sparks a heated debate amongst the group. And guess what, my friend?
You become the leader amongst her friends. Hence, you can take the conversation in any direction you want.
You’ve infiltrated her social circle. If you hit on the girl, her friend will no longer care.
One last point: your energy level needs to be a little bit higher than the group. Otherwise, you will bring down their energy level and they will get bored.
Likewise, if your energy level is too high, you’ll jar them.
Either way, they’ll ask you to leave.
Here is your homework: Think of five interesting questions you can ask groups of people. These are your conversational gambits.
The next time you’re at a bar and spot a girl you’d like to meet, approach her social circle with one of these questions. I think you’ll be surprised how well it works.
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