Get Ex Back With A Phone Call
Is it possible to get your ex back as a lover with just one phone call? Do you need to wait 30 days or more hoping they will forgive you, or can you vastly speed up the process? Well, if you use emotional intelligence to help your ex release their bad feelings and get to forgiveness, you can start to get them back with one phone call.
Before you even pick up the phone, remind yourself not to start by saying I’m sorry. This is a common mistake people making, apologizing over and over hoping their ex will understand and take them back. But if an apology was going to work, you’d probably already be back together. To get your ex back beginning with just one phone call, don’t start with an apology!
Instead of saying I’m sorry, the first thing to do on the call is to admit what you did wrong. Own it. Say something in the vicinity of “I want to start by saying that I did you wrong. I was too controlling (or I cheated on you or whatever) and jealous.” This is a critical first move.
Fessing up to what you did is powerful emotional logic! It leads to forgiveness much faster. If a friend of yours stands you up for a get together and then lies about it, you will be more bothered by the lie over time than the actual screw up. But if they screw up and admit it, you can let it go much faster.
If you make taking responsibility for what you did your first step, you will really get your ex’s attention. It is something that emotionally they need to hear.
This clears the way for the next step to have a powerful emotional effect. You then admit to your ex the emotional pain you caused by what you did. So you might tell them something like “I know that what I did made you feel betrayed and unloved and unappreciated…”
With this step you are using emotional intelligence very powerfully. You are making your ex feel heard and understood at an emotional level. You are mirroring their probable feelings. They will now often begin to feel that you really do know how much you screwed up.
There are other steps to take if you want to get your ex back in just one phone call. But these first two are a powerful start. You’ll need to have your ex forgive you, and it will go much easier if you have done these two things before you apologize.
